Anonymous

Unresponsive website Findagrave.com

There seem to be so many ads popping up, so I wonder if that is

what is slowing the website and making it unresponsive.

I can't type in data because it keeps stalling. Can Ancestry fix this or are they more concerned about having ads all over the screen?

I pay no attention to the ads so stop the overload!!!! It is very discouraging to use the site, especially since it was people like us that built the data base. Now Ancestry is making money off of it and simultaneously making the site almost useless.

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Guest

Just use AdBlocker plus with Chrome browser and your problem is solved. Geez does everything in your world have to be so difficult???

Guest

Amen, how do we get this message to Ancestry so we can use the site again. You can block the ad's (which is against their policy) and the site works fine, but if you want to do an edit on another persons memorial, it won't work because javascript is blocked and it wants you to click I am not a robot. GRRRRRR

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Anonymous
map-marker Madison, Wisconsin

WELCOME TO FIND A GRAVE

THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW The website does not have a list of rules it has a Frequently asked questions section which most websites typically have to address questions about the list of rules. Jim Tipton did not think Far enough ahead to place a list of rules. In fact his Friendly FAQS are also referred to as guidelines. By definition, following a guideline is never mandatory. Guidelines are not binding and are not enforced. ( U.S. Dept. of Veterans Affairs,http://www.va.gov/trm/TRMGlossaryPage.asp) going through the ask an admin section in the forum the Administrators will answer questions with, report the person and the administrator will decide. Never giving a straight answer one way or another. Never giving the volunteers a right or wrong answer. So the administrator may continue to change up any listed FAQ at their own indiscretion. EXAMPLE TAKEN DIRECTLY FROM THE FAQS http://www.findagrave.com/cgi-bin/fg.cgi?searc individual's right to privacy disappears when they are deceased. If an immediate family member contacts us and wants information removed, we generally do so as a matter of respect for their wishes but we treat each request on a case by case basis. The names of living survivors will be removed from the biography section of a memorial upon request. JIM TIPTON'S FAMILY FIRST POLICY An individual's right to privacy disappears when they are deceased. we here at Find A Grave have a quota to meet. WE HERE AT FIND A GRAVE WANT YOU TO VIOLATE CEMETERY RULES THAT FORBID YOU FROM PHOTOGRAPHING GRAVES. WE ENCOURAGE YOU TO TRESPASS ETC. HARASSMENT feel free to harass other members in to leaving findagrave heck our administrators will help you out if you need to get rid of someone. Create blogs look up their kids and mock the death of any small children they may have lost http://www.findagrave.com/cgi-bin/fg.cgi?page=mr
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Guest

yeah all you f.a.g. members keep working to help jim tipton make millions you s...uc.....kers!

Find A Grave and its members are grave vampires!

STOP SUCKING THE LIFE OUT OF THE SURVIVORS SO JIM TIPTON CAN PROFIT FROM OUR LOVED ONES DEATHS!!!

Company Name Find A Grave Inc

Headquarter PO Box 522107

Salt Lake City, UT, 84152-****

Tipton, Jim Marketing Executive Marketing Manager-Level

jim@***.com

Phone Number +1.801.671.4677

Industry Business Services

Employees 25 - 100

Revenue $1 - 10M

Ownership Privately Held

Guest

Sounds like the complainers on this site are the ones who got kicked off *** for not following the guidelines. Getting your hand slapped sure makes you bitter, eh?

Guest
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I have not been kicked off. I dont understand your comment about it sounds like the complainers are the ones getting kicked off for not following guidelines?

What the heck are you talking about. That website has no set of rules.... I left willingly...

Billion Graves has a staff that responds the *** gross people can have that website. I saw what they did with the NEW TOWN BABIES listed the babies stole copyright pictures to make money on their deaths

Guest
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Spoken like one of the cyberbullies. I don't break the faqs and I haven't been kicked off the site.

I avoid raising issues with the cyberbullies because that will get me kicked off the site. Too many friends have been treated poorly and bullied by admins and their pals.

Guest

A class action suit is a great idea! I would love to see Jim Tip ton pay out hundreds of thousands of dollars to victims of f.a.g. and the survivors of the loved ones that are exploited on the sacrilegious website.

Guest

I enjoy walking in cemeteries. Many are well maintained urban oases. I've seen many species of birds and even the occasional deer. When I enter a new cemetery I look for signs forbidding photography. More often than not, cemeteries do not expressly forbid photography. I'm in no contest to "collect" thousands of entries in F.A.G.. My entries are often family or associates. Sometimes my F.A.G. entries are graves that don't appear to have been visited for a while. To me, F.AG. is a mean by which people can visit graves anywhere in the world at any time.

I admit some "gravers" are over the top with their fetish with "numbers". I feel that I am not degrading or dishonoring the dead. If a family member wants one of my memorials deleated, I am happy to do so. In six years I have had only one request.

Those who are unhappy with F.A.G. for whatever reason should band together, get legal advice and launch a CLASS ACTION suit against F.A.G.. If they are contravening any law they must be held accountable. Otherwise stop crying. If F.A.G. is breaking no laws, disgruntled family members must stop visiting F.A.G. and stop complaibg. *** or get off the pot.

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A class action suit is a great idea! I would love to see Jim Tip ton pay out hundreds of thousands of dollars to victims of f.a.g.

and the survivors of the loved ones that are exploited on the sacrilegious website. Jim Tipton and f.a.g.

members are nothing but thieves!

Jim Tipton in a millionaire because of all of you foolish people.

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A class action suit is a great idea! I would love to see Jim Tip ton pay out hundreds of thousands of dollars to victims of f.a.g.

and the survivors of the loved ones that are exploited on the sacrilegious website. Jim Tipton and f.a.g.

members are nothing but thieves!

Jim Tipton in a millionaire because of all of you foolish people.

Guest
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Lack of signs forbidding photographing isn't proof photographing is okay. We will be sure and tell Tipton is was your suggestion to file a class action suit.

Guest

Find A Grave and its members are grave vampires!

STOP SUCKING THE LIFE OUT OF THE SURVIVORS SO JIM TIPTON CAN PROFIT FROM OUR LOVED ONES DEATHS!!!

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Anonymous
map-marker Little Rock, Arkansas

Recent Death

I recently lost my husband a couple of months ago. Somehow he was on Find A Grave, without my or any other family member's permission. There with photos of him, one of which I have never seen. They had him buried in a particular location where we are planning to bury him before he was buried. They even had his birth date wrong. Apparently, some of his information was taken from the local newspaper obituary. Find A Grave needs to have some sort of grace period respecting the grieving families. I would suggest 5 to 10 years before listing unless they have contacted the family members for permission. Thankfully, after contacting the contributor, the posting was removed. I am writing this because I do not want anyone to have to go through this. He hasn't even been gone 5 months.
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Guest

The same thing happen when my husband passed. A person listed it with incorrect information and my husband doesn't even have a grave.j

Guest

If the cemetery has their own website with grave listings, would you also object to your loved one appearing there for 5-10 years? If your loved one is buried in a National Cemetery, they will appear on the National Gravesite Locatur the month after the burial.

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Funeral homes, cemeteries and the like are one thing b/c it’s part of what they do and families expect to see those memorials in fact we look for them and know that it was part of someone’s job to put that up there.

*** * ****e is a completely different animal b/c when I first found a family member on the site they had been dead for 50+ years and I was really happy to find it. And it gave me the impression that the purpose for the site was for genealogy and history buffs who do voluntary historical research, which I was fine and supportive with.

But when I found a memorial for my mother had been created 3 months after she died I had a problem with it for a few reasons. The first being that she knew about the site and asked me to wait to post a memorial for her, the second being it was completely unnecessary b/c the funeral home and cemetery already had that covered so it was already completely searchable online the third being you don’t know who is posting this stuff and what sort of information they have access to. Whereas with funeral homes and cemeteries you know it was someone’s job you know where to go if there is a problem and are talking to a person with a real name.

So what they have been doing on *** * ****e is completely unnecessary unless it was done by a family member.

Shakelia Wey
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Instead of going by the "impression" you got, you should have read the FAQs b/c, you know, that's has the real info about the site. Just sayin'.

See, it's about all graves & final dispositions: new ones, old ones and non-graves (like body donated to science).

If the person is deceased and the disposition is known, they belong on Find A Grave. If your mother knew about the site and her info was going to be published on a funeral home site or in a newspaper, why did she think no one else would create a memorial for her?

Guest

My daughter was posted before we even had her buried, also someone got it from an obit, two people actually posted her obit, one did it before she was even buried the other about ten days after...I wasn't in the mindset to put it up yet, but I then felt I had to before someone else did,it broke my heart m she was only 25.

Guest

This just happened to me. My mother died and a *** contributor keen on high stats posted her memorial with incorrect and incomplete information on the date of her death, days before her funeral.

In fact her body was still at home. The family created a memorial a short while later, which I sponsored and posted photos and a biography to.

When I contacted the other contributor and asked that they delete it as they did not know her and as her only child I should be able to manage the memorial, *** transferred my sponsorship to them and deleted the family created memorial. I agree that there are a lot of good things about *** but the practice of trawling through obits and posting them on the date of death or before the funeral is truly disgusting.

Guest

It's a normal thing for this website--it's the sole purpose of the site--to record the burial information or final disposition of remains, no matter when the death occurred. My sincere sympathies for your loss, it's understandably unnerving to see them listed when you are hardly able to wrap your heart around the fact that they have passed away, but it's what the site is and what the site does.

No different than how hard it must be to see the original obit in the newspaper. That's so horrible the newspaper got the birth date wrong. :( I hope they corrected it.

If you want to correct it on the Find A Grave website, just click on the Edit tab near the top right of his memorial page. Again, my condolences on your loss.

Guest

People are loading memorials from the obituaries. In Champaign County Ohio C and Y who is Candi G does this every day.

She loves her stats. It is a way to control a cemetery and everyone has to send edits to her and add photos to her.

Guest

It also happened to my family member, it is quite a normal thing on this site. People jump to list a persons death before their body has had a chance to grow cold in the morgue--- Completely disgusting!

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Anonymous

Personal Information in Obituary

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My cousin place the obituary of my Mother on a Find A Grave website without asking any of us for permission. I emailed, called her and she became quite angry, used the F-word and hung up on me. I was calm and explained the need for living relatives to have their information kept private. I got No response from the website and my cousin has refused to budge. Now What? Legal help over something like this??? The Contributor is apparently the only one who can remove the place data and photos.
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Guest

Agree.

The rules say the page manager should be generous to a family member if contacted.

Always remember the page is a human being who is loved by someone out there.

Guest

You should request that this memorial be transferred to you since it's your mother and your direct ancestor. If the cousin refuses to do so, then contact Find-A-Grave.

Guest

If the obituary was in the local newspaper then it's public anyway , and so is most information these days

Guest
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So what if it was in the local newspaper? The family consented to provide the information ONLY to the newspaper.

Not to Find a Grave. I've had a very similar experience, and I have contributed to Find a Grave. A woman took my mom's obit and attempted to input it verbatim into Find a Grave--within 48 hours of my mom's death (another numbers cruncher). We ONLY provide the OK to have name in the obit in 2 local newspapers and on the funeral home's site.

I had to fight tooth and nail with the "manager" of that "memorial" to prove that 1) I was the DAUGHTER and 2) to either fix all her stinking typos (she cannot type for ***) OR to transfer the memorial to me so I could edit and remove the names. Really? I'm grieving my mother's death and she had the balls to do this. I went straight to the admins, provided proof I was the daughter and had the memorial transferred to me.

Took a few weeks, but I got it.

I got somewhere in the process a very nasty email from her via Find a Grave about how "mean" I was and that she "was only doing a service." Not in my eyes. I see the value of Find a Grave, but when people are entering obits when the body is barely cold, there's an issue.

Guest
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Yep ! I know that woman.

She is very conniving, a liar and spreads many lies around. She has been there for over a decade and works hard to run others off FINDAGRAVE by harassing them.

Guest
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From * Me Haley- To Anon on Apr 03 #113****. Condolences for your loss of your mother.

What a shame that while dealing with grief, unbearable pain, all the tedious details when a life ends, and so much more to cope with- you then had to deal with a rabid obit grabbing lunatic.

Her actions are appalling! She then had the audacity to challenge you when confronted with the information that it was your own mother!

That spiteful HAG member should have apologized and immediately relinquish the "memorial" of your mother, to you.

Wow! If that wasn't over the top behavior, the rabid one shows more outrageous behavior by harassing you with a "nasty" email!

SMH at her truly despicable actions. I hope she gets 86'ed- but I doubt that'll happen.

Tsk tsk!

Hopefully that hag will get some just desserts in the near future. ~Haley

Guest
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We need less inconsiderate people on this website. There are those who have no compassion what so ever for families nor their deceased family members. There are many low-class people there (working?) or more or less just messing around with other peoples memorials and trying to control and bully sincere members off of F_G with mean intent -- Very sad!

Guest
reply icon Replying to comment of Guest-1137838

Copyright applies.

In addition to contacting Find A Grave to ask for a page transfer, if the OP really wanted, they could also report the copyright violation to the newspaper.

However, if they receive the transfer they can erase the obituary from the page themselves.

Copyright still applies even on the internet!

People seem to conveniently forget that fact.

Find A Grave rules also forbid including the names of living people on a page unless they gave the page manager express permission to do so.

Guest

If she is really your mother, just ask for the memorial to be removed or ask for management of the memorial and remove the obit yourself.

Guest

Report the inappropriate biography information to: edit@***.com . Include the number of the Memorial, the specific problem and your relationship to the person of the Memorial.

Just be brief, state the facts and allow 21 days for a response due to backlog. Not necessary to give all the interaction with your cousin.

Just the Memorial number, the issue (private information), your relationship to the memorial person.

Based on almost 15 years of contributing to Find A Grave, they will take care of the situation for you.

Also more information here if you are interested.

http://www.findagrave.com/cgi-bin/fg.cgi?searchArg=contact&page=listFaqs

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Anonymous
map-marker Scotts Valley, California

My, (Find A Grave) account is not working.

12:28PM Find A Grave - Face Book: Hello. I have enetered a new memorial and when I go to the, (next step) it is not working. I have back stepped on several occasions but nothing... Can you please help me with this? This is the link that I am trying to get to the next step. Thank you for your assistance. Glendy... http://www.findagrave.com/cgi-bin/fg.cgi?page=ds Find A Grave - Millions of Cemetery Records and Online Memorials findagrave.com This is the memorial that I entered but it does not take me to the 2nd step to add picture, etc.: Linda was born on August 24, 1962 in Glendale, California. Accomplished in piano, violin and music theory for the majority of her youth. At age 14, Linda won a piano competition involving 14 western United States, in San Francisco. She graduated Hoover High School, 1980 in Glendale, California and attended California State University, Northridge. Linda married on May 17, 1986 and enjoyed her family for 30 years. She set her sights on a career as an Ultrasonographer, and was well respected by her co-workers, doctors and patients. She wrote a children's book titled "Giant Mike and the Four Fairies," based on one of her patients. On Facebook, Linda was founder of TRUMPERS ON A MISSION!!! On June 16, 2015, Linda coined the phrase " Trump Train ." She loved all her family and friends regardless of ideology/ She believed in Christianity and her strong love for family, friends and country was the foundation that saw her through arduous times. With the deepest love, your family and friends celebrate your life! Go in peace with God. Published in Bakersfield Californian on Aug. 26, 2016 My I.D # Glendy (#4708****) 1:39PM Hi Thanks Glendy for the information, please email this to us at support@***.com 3:23PM Hi, thank you. I will. Thank you.
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Anonymous
map-marker West Jordan, Utah

Merging Duplicates

On Feb 25, 2015 find a grave employees stole my photos, documents, and years of researched information from my grandmothers memorial and transfered it to a NON-family member just because their memorial was added before mine. In my book that is " Stealing " .

Find a Grave tells it's members to NOT steal from other members but they go and do it ! By the way, they did NOT tell me they were going to merge them they just did it.

Also, did you know people on this site are downloading obituary notices from online funeral homes and adding them to Find a Grave BEFORE the person is even buried?

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Preferred solution: STOP merging duplicates. The OLD or first date should NOT be the winner.

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Guest

Why did you do a duplicate? That is against FAG rules, which you broke.

Guest

This also happened to me

Guest

You shouldn't have created a duplicate record. You should have followed protocol and asked the manager of the original record to transfer management to you.

Most people will happily transfer a record to a family member. If they refuse, you can contact Find-A-Grave and state your case.

Guest
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Sorry, this is not accurate either. I personally had asked for a cousin of mine to be transferred to me by the woman who created the memorial.

I asked the woman if she was related to this cousin of mine and she refused to tell me if she was. When she would not transfer the memorial to me, I created a new one. She then went in and had the memorial that I had created which had far more documentation on it to her memorial. I was never notified that this even happened.

Only later did I realize that it was this same woman who was doing this out of spitefulness. When I contacted Find A Grave they refused to do anything about this. I asked for the memorial to be transferred to me, but that never happened.

Regardless, I still love Find A Grave, but I do wish that memorials were not merged in any certain order. If you can prove that you are related to a person, I think that is what matters most.

Guest
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You must prove that you are within the Find A Grave guidelines for transfer. A cousin does not qualify.

Up to a great-grandparent in direct lineage and down to a great-grandchild in direct lineahe qualifies.

You violated Find A Grave policy by purposely creating a duplicate memorial because you didn't wish to follow protocol. I am surprised you weren't suspended.

Guest

I found a memorial for my son which I do NOT want listed for my own personal reasons. The person who did this can not be contacted.

I had a request today and lo and behold the request has been done but no picture of the grave. Evidently this person just takes obit notices and posts them as memorials. In my opinion that stinks.

And that's not research . That's plain laziness and it should NOT be allowed!!

Guest
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Agreed! A person in my area is doing the same.

As soon as the obituary comes out online, he creates the memorial. He does not go back to add gravesite photo.

Ugh! Should not be allowed!

Guest

I was hoping for information on how to merge two memorials into one. At least that was what was indicated in the title.

Guest

lazy find a grave members

Guest

What a tempest in a teacup. Others have given good advice about how this should have been handled years ago.

Too late for that. Here's how to deal with it now, based on the assumption that the memorial's manager is NOT related and based on the assumption that you are banned from the site (because if you're aren't banned, just do what other said and request the transfer already).

1. Find another grandchild or great-grandchild; you probably know several. Ask them to register and account and request the transfer.

In their request, they should request that if the transfer is deleted, to please state the reason (just in case this is also a relative). This will happen w/in 30 days.

2. If it doesn't have the other person nicely write FG and request the transfer. It will happen, again within 30 more days.

In both cases, submit documentation.

3. Write FG, apologize for the rants, promise courteous behavior, get your account reinstated.

4. Have your relative transfer the memorial to you. Keep in mind, that if they are also active on FG, they may not want to and will not be required to transfer, but at least the memorial will be in family hands either way.

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If the memorial's manager does happen to be a relative, you are out of luck. Sorry, but that's the way it goes. One memorial, multiple descendants: FG will not remove a valid manager because one of the other descendants is unhappy. You may not like it, but deleting or merging the newer memorial is the norm.

Deal with it in better graces. It sounds to me like you might have yourself ignored a request to delete or merge your memorial; usually FG is not involved. They do not go out patrolling for duplicates.

This suggests you refused to follow site rules when the error of your memorial's creation was pointed out. They likely responded to a complaint from someone else about your memorial and did what their terms of service say they will do: they merged it.

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Anonymous
map-marker Sparkill, New York

Wrong Information printed on my Husband

Hello my name is Cheryl Hardy i am writing you in regards to the error that was printed on my former Husband Darryl Hardy. That passed away on June 4th and was buried at Rockland cemetery in Sparkill NY. The information printed about him was wrong and i would like to get this straightened out 1- His youngest Son's name was never put on 2- Darryl was never a Iraq War Veteran his oldest son was. I would like to get this information fixed as soon as possible His youngest son is very upset over this whole thing, I would greatly appreciate it if someone would get back to me a soon as possible so we can look into this matter.
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Guest

The youngest son isn't listed because he's still alive. Only the deceased are listed on Findagrave.

Guest

You need to send an "edit" request to the person who posted the memorial. Go to his memorial page, click "edit" in the top right corner.

If you are wanting to correct dates or locations, you may do so by clicking "Birth/death date, birth/death place" and filling in the right information.

If the information is regarding something written in the "Bio" section, which seems to be what you are suggesting, then click "Suggest any other correction or addition" and post what you are wanting corrected. The creator of the page will receive an email with the request.

Guest

Just have Findagrave remove the memorial and then put up your own, or request the perpetrator hand it over to you. You are entitled to your husbands memorial.

Guest
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Family should have control over their own family memorials not some control freak. This part of find a ?

needs to change. Good grief people!

Guest
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They have a 4 generation rule. They have to transfer siblings, parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents.

Other then that they do not have to transfer. You are not be the only one retailed to them.

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Actually in many cases you are the only close blood relative registered and active on find a grave, and the four generation rule ignores aunts and uncles who might have no living descendants. Typing in a few blanks in a form to create a memorial page is hardly work, especially those without detail or research to put in family links.

These are memorials to real people and hoarding and collecting dead people who are strangers to you and holding them hostage from people who actually knew and loved them is morally repugnant, despite any rules that defend your "right" to be *** Find a grave is also owned by ancestry, who links up the data to paying customers. For the sake of accuracy, most memorials would be better managed by people with access to records, who are willing to make sure information is thorough and correct.

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reply icon Replying to comment of Guest-1091946

You do not have to go to this site. If someone does the work why should they just hand it over to you?

To many family tree collectors want control of everyone in their tree.

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.....Because it is my family and not yours! Hand over my family and work on your own family and leave mine alone!

Guest
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Hand over my family! It is not your family to mess around with.

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You must be a hoarder.

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Leocadia Yjj

Creeps at find a grave do NOT respect families

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Total strangers can post your personal info and your deceased loved ones' info without your consent! I am trying to get two pages taken down which to my horror I discovered contained my info. I do NOT want my parents' graves on the *** internet or my name, bday, etc. Who do these ghouls think they are? I read another person call them tragedy *** and that's right. Google yourself and get your info OFF find a grave if you find it, and for the love of God let the dead rest in peace! My mom and dad would be so horrified to know they are stuck on the internet because of these grave robbers who get satisfaction from controlling the image of the dead, who cannot speak for themselves. Sick, sick. Leave the dead and survivors be!
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Guest

What if you find info about your parents on another site (not affiliated with Find A Grave or Ancestry)? There are lots of sites that might have their cemetery info on it. You don't own your parents or anyone else's info.

Guest

I feel so bad for people who discover the Find A Grave site this way.

There are many members there who copy and paste obituaries the moment they appear on the internet. Those members visit newspaper, obituary, and funeral parlor websites daily.

It is all they do. Some have up to a million pages made.

The Find A Grave rules say members should be respectful of mourning family members, and generous to them if contacted. I have read complaints on this site today, of people who were mistreated by members at Find A Grave. That should never happen.

The rules also say that current obituaries are not to be used without consent of the newspaper. I can safely bet almost none ask permission, they simply race to be first to post it.

The rules also say that all mention of living people are to be removed from any obituary posted.

There are members who break all those rules but because they rack up the numbers, nothing is done.

In the end it is a site and survives on clicks and totals. The more pages they have the more clicks they get and the more financially stable or profitable they will be. If you contact Find A Grave and CALMLY tell them the situation, they will respond positively. If you want an obituary removed or the names of living people removed, tell them so.

Provide a link to the page or provide the memorial number in your email. info@***.com If a member has been rude to you when you asked them to remove an obituary or the names of living people, tell the site about that. If you want to manage the loved one's page, join the site and ask the page manager for a transfer.

Tell them how you are related to the deceased. You do have recourse.

Guest

I agree with the person who wrote about F>G> tragedy *** The people who dwell on the wicked stuff done by others are absolutely sickening and disgusting! Let there be peace and dignity for those who have died instead of ignorantly making everyone a monument for evil death.

Enough of you people who do this awful and nasty stuff! Get a real life because you are truly insane!

Guest

Contact F.a grave and tell them you want your privacy and also demand it. It is your right to be private.

Your deceased parents deserve that courtesy too.............. Good luck!

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I read the complaint on the (Tragedy *** Kind of a interesting blog............. You are right about that one!

It seems the problem is with some of those jokes there who leave flowers in some-kind of circus ring that happens there everyday.

Pretty funny! These folks are no doubt the loosely connected.

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Find A Grave - Website Review from Lake Worth, Florida

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I recently added a memorial for the honorable former first lady Nancy Reagan, and i noticed that there was another memorial for her ,but that one is added in 2003, she just died march 6,2016. And people were dumb enough to leave her flowers... thats not what this website is about, PEOPLE ADDING FAKE MEMORIALS FOR PEOPLE WHO ARENT DEAD YET... here's the number for the find a grave contributor...4658****
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Shakelia Wey

Hmm, guess you broke the #1 rule: Before creating a memorial, SEARCH.

Guest

I know this review is old but I need to vent someplace so I hope you understand. I discovered find a grave over three years ago through doing some family research.

I was excited about it and joined only to create memorials for family and created two and got six more which were already on there transferred over to me and those were the only ones on there at the time. I hadn’t been to the site for a couple of years b/c my mother died and had discussed when to add her memorial with her. This week doing research again lead me to find a grave and just out of curiosity did a search for my mother. Her memorial had been added 3 months after her death and of course I got it transferred over to me but there was a lot more to it than that which I won’t get into.

But I would think if these people really wanted to pay respect they would be taking pictures of graves decades old. And on top of that the first year or two after a person’s death is a highly emotional and vulnerable time for families. So I don’t care what their FAQ says, anyone other than a family member should not be creating a memorial for someone they don’t know within the first two years of death. When I saw that I couldn’t help but think of well the monetary things people have to deal with within the first couple of years of death.

They are treading in some pretty murky water there. Here are a couple of links you might be interested in.

http://youngandsavvygenealogists.blogspot.com/2015/01/does-this-couple-in-missouri-own-your.html

http://www.findagrave.com/cgi-bin/fg.cgi?page=gr&GSmid=4823****&GRid=13851****&

Guest

Just because you don't know the rules doesn't mean you can insult others. Her memorial was perfectly legitimate; your memorial was a duplicate and you should have looked for one prior to creating one.

Guest

Find A Grave has different requirements for famous and non-famous. Plus, the rules have changed over the years so bear that in mind.

Find A Grave allows for "pre-need" memorials to be created as long as the burial place is known and a headstone/marker is in place (the headstone requirement is for non-famous folks only).

Since it was known before her husband (Pres. Reagan) died where they would be buried, both memorials were created before either of them died.

Just as an FYI - Famous memorials are required have their bios written in a strict style (this is outlined in the FAQ's - which too many members don't read). Most who create memorials for famous people usually don't know about the requirements or cannot write a bio that meets its' standards then get upset when their memorial is merged into the one that was written (and updated) over the years by members who specialize in writing these type bios.

No rules have been broken; nothing to get upset about.

It's always good to read the rules first - to make sure you understand what's required as well as what's allowed.

Then remember - there's probably a memorial with a bio already written already waiting for a very famous person. You may have better luck with the less famous who still deserve a memorial with a well written bio.

Calbert Yya
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Only one thing to add to what was said above: Pre-needs are now ONLY allowed in certain situations, such as: famous people who have already been entered (like Nancy Reagan) and for yourself IF you have a marker installed in a cemetery.

Guest

You are dealing with lying cheats for memorials. It is sick and criminal for people to up a memorial for ANYONE who has not died or have been buried yet,

Sick and twisted and deranged! You need report this liarr!

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Anonymous

Bully Contributors--Specifically "Die Hard"

Whoever "Die Hard" is seems to like to tell others what to do and acts as if he/she is Find A Grave administration itself. But then there is conveniently no way to contact "Die Hard" in response to anything.

I'd say this person is a great big "chicken" that gets a charge out of trying to bully people, but can't deal with any heat from the people that get bullied.

I don't hold Find A Grave responsible for this, but I wish they would monitor their website to try to keep people like that from harassing other people. And I do consider that a type of harassment.

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Guest

I first met this Cecelia Stewart in March 2015. She was the 'creator' of my grt.

grandfather's find a grave memorial. She had a bare amount of data in his memorial so I offered to supply the family data. When I noticed she had given my grt. grandfather the wrong father I asked her to correct it.

She would not even after 3 years. I gave her the information about my Grt. Grandfather's confederate solider status....she never put it in the Bio (never in 3 years). My Grt Grandfather had eleven siblings and Cecelia's deliberate diehard refusal to correct her chosen father to this family had a hugh impact of their history.

When I realized the person in her memorial was definitely not my Grt. Grandfather I proceeded to create my Grt Grandfather a memorial with his corrected father's identity and his confederate soldier record. It happened so fast. Cecelia yelled "Duplicate Duplicate".........but it wasn't yet Find A Grave sided with Cecelia and transferred my completed informative memorial to Cecelia Stewart which they are claiming it was created 2009 by Cecelia.

I was penalized for not accepting Cecelia's wrong , half written Bio as Find A Grave/Cecelia wanted it presented. I was hurt, shocked bewildered and at a complete loss. Find a grave has not offered to pay me for my 4 years of research since I did not release my memorial to them.. Lots of emails and messages definitely show someone in an emotional stress.

Cecelia has 1,620 memorials and she was not going to transfer her hold .she claims her husband's grt. grand pappy was my grt. grandmother brother and that gave her full inter knowledge on who fathered my grt. grandfather.

She was wrong but at this time she is enjoying my Bio of correction.

Find a grave never researched my claim say 1st is owner of name memorial. This was hurtful...I am not resolve to the bully tactics and continuous threat to take my account away...No where to go and no one to help.....Nancy Solt FAG ID #4826*** */15/18

Guest

I have an issue with publishing her, or anyone's contact information here. Complaining is one thing, but I find her personal information off-putting.

While her behavior presents an issue, lets try and remember that there is person at the root of this. Difficult, yes.

But she is a person.

Guest

Find A Grave and Ancestry need to tell her to back off. She is something beyond a bully.

Diehard acts like the site belongs to her, and it doesn't. I am all for following the rules, but she needs to leave other users alone, and leave the administrative issues to Find A Grave administrators.

Guest

I myself have had a problem with Brandy Wells Murray. Though she gets good reviews from most, I am her family and her animosity for me started in Facebook.

She threw me out of our Hollowell Family History forum once she took it over, which was a huge mistake of the previous Administrator.

She changed the rules and if you do not adhere, she just throws you out, which looked real bad for her since I am a Black family member.

It first started when I did not move quick enough to correct something or other. I was insulted by her insistence, though it was not necessarily rude but insistent.

Then once she became an Administrator, she changed what you could post, which I did not know about until later.

That was not the problem. The problem was that she has a big ego and evidently is jealous of other people's work. I was very nice to her and contacted her many times to explain and correct the situation and our relationship.

She would not answer back or try to mend the relationship. Well, when I joined Find-A-Grave I found my maternal grandmother's file and told her about the corrections. She rebutted me at first, until I had to be strong and direct with her and showed my family tree. I think I know how to spell my Grandmother's name thank you.

She was just belligerent and did not want to listen, but she did eventually change the info begrudgingly. Here's the kicker, when I asked for my Grandmother's profile she did not give it up after 3 or 4 requests. In the meantime, I wrote the Administrators, which have been very nice to me. I know that is not everyone's experience evidently...LOL!

Well, I found out today that she erased it rather than give it to me. The Administrators retrieved it and I asked them to sanction her. This is my grandmother of whom I have never met because she died young. Same thing on FB, she was such an *** to me.

She has probably blocked me too, but whateve. I contribute most of her actions to jealousy. If you know more than her....OMG! I had no idea this is such a problem on Find-A-Grave.

You all have really schooled me. Thanks for listening you all.

Guest

After a long hiatus from FindaGrave, I return. Immediately began getting trolled by Dandie Lion.

Rude, demanding and when I send a message that I changed the error, it was not good enough, he/she was going to teach me a lesson for lying...of course I didn't lie about anything, but they kept it up so much that I sent our email conversations to Admin.

I will not be threatened by the likes of these bullies, I will stand up for myself and if they want to come at me after I have completed an edit...they best hire an army, because this gal...fights back.

Put these bullies in their place. I threatened the Glendora witch with legal action and had my lawyer send her an email before I got her off my back.

Die Hard needs pills...lots of them and for someone to break her fingers so she can't be nasty to anyone ever again. Sick individuals who pick fights...not ok Now I wish I hadn't come back to FG.

Fight back.

Guest

Apparently one cannot edit or amend the posts here..In a previous post I erred in naming another diehard alias- she has posted as fizzbot64 in the past, but the Jacki Gothard is another findagrave member sadly with a very similar name.

Guest

Her real name is also an alias; Jackie Wilson Goddard and she has another findagrave name Jacki Godard

another bully friend of hers Glendora real name Glendora Wetstone trolls through peoples memorials and gets some perverse pleasure out of harassing edits..usually petty ones filled with self righteousness.

Guest
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Same here. I had to block both of these people on FB.

On many FG groups, Glenda shredded me and many others. The Die Hard woman....pathetic bully, unable to deal with people who don't take her ***.

They should be banned permanently from FAGrave. Life is too short.

Guest
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Recently found out that Diehard is in fact Jackie Wilson Goddard. It is also believed that Macie Danner Thompson is also Jackie as she got herself kicked out of many Find a Grave groups for being rude, condescending, belligerent and out right nasty.

Jackie also has 60,000 memorials, and a small amount of actual photos in comparison. She also has close to 300 photo requests out there...for other people's memorials, not hers. She trolls Everyone. She is way too busy being a bully, she has her messaging blocked because too many people called her out on the public messages...You have to search on her member page, using a common name to get to a random memorial to send the beast a message.

She is boastful and bragging and finds every tiny crack of a conversation, to copy and past the FAQ's..like we are all inept. She has not made any notable contribution...downloading cemetery records...not heroic.

Guest

Any contributor can be reached via any one of the memorials he/she has made. This can be done with the white Edit tab in the right corner of the page, then select "Suggest any other correction or addition".

This goes directly to their email inbox. Just because someone has their contact info disabled doesn't mean you can't send correct information on to them.

And no, this doesn't mean they will respond, just that they have received the message. You can save a copy of this message that will go to your inbox in case you need to take something up with administrators.

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Anonymous
map-marker Rochester, Minnesota

Find A Grave Memorial# 13818**** erroneous link

Alma King's memorial (Find A Grave Memorial# 13818**** )shows a link to her supposed husband, Matthew Cole (1760-****). However the person who posted the memorial included a notice from the Burlington Free Press, January 17, 1845: "Married ..on Wednesday evening last, Dr. Matthew Cole of Williston, to Miss Alma King, daughter of Dea. Lyman King, of this town." Alma King obviously married a different Matthew Cole but the creator of the memorial will not remove the link and add the correct link to the Matthew Cole she really married. Both were doctors and the error would be understandable, except for the fact that Matthew, to whom she is linked, died 35 years before the marriage. His date of death can be verified from other records. I've contacted the creator of the memorial but she has yet to correct it. Find A Grave could be a great resource but it should not be a contest to see who can add the most memorials.
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map-marker Ottawa, Ontario

Find A Grave - Website Review from Ottawa, Ontario

I am over this site.They respond to bullying.I sponsor and have been a photo contributor fors years for a loved one(s)w/no problems.Last yr.,another relative who is full of hate towards me-but has better "references"decides to come on board.All of a sudden my pics from over the yrs are deleted, and they send me an email thanking me for my"contribution"that i didnt even to bother to fully read.I knew exactly what it contained.Money talks,*** walks w/this site.

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Queena Rey

Right on. As for the 9 No's, they're probably the *** disturbers of Find A Grave

Guest

what kind of "pics" did you add?

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Channell Vto
map-marker Millsboro, Delaware

A Lot of wrong information

I am a county cemetery administrator and I can tell you that in my research I have found that more than 50% of the cemetery and burial information is incorrect. I know of at least six cemetery listing where the addresses and the listing of those buried there are wrong. A lot of lurkers there that do nothing but post information they have no clue whether it is correct or not. No way to make corrections if you find them. VERY POOR, or rather non existent customer service. At one time this was a good service. Now owned by Ancestry.com. Not worth using. You want information rely on public archives for your information.
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Guest

I'm a long-time member of Find A Grave and have not found anywhere near 50% of the information is wrong. In my area, the Find A Grave listings are far MORE accurate than the public archives because we have worked together to correct long-standing errors.

"Public archives" are rarely complete or 100% accurate. Records can be lost or destroyed. Humans make errors - suppose they were copying from the old book into a new one and wrote a name or date wrong?

If the Find A Grave listings are wrong, work with others to correct them. Complaining about the errors or throwing in the towel doesn't accomplish anything.

Guest

Oh, but there IS a way to make corrections!

If you are just visiting the site, you'll need to sign up for an account to make corrections to memorials. Before you start submitting corrections, be sure to read the "Help with Find A Grave" file for such things as their Naming Conventions.

If a memorial needs corrected, go to the memorial and click on the "Edit" tab above the photo section.

The first 5 options are for data field entries: dates/locations, relationship links, name, plot info, inscription. Each of those types have a separate fill-in-the-blank screen. All of those appear on the Edits tab of the memorial manager's profile and they have 3 weeks to take care of them by Accepting or Declining. If they do not accept or decline within those 3 weeks, the system will automatically do them.

you will receive an email for each Edit telling you whether it was accepted or declined.

If the correction is not appropriate for the first 5 items, use the 6th one "Suggest any other correction". Mark the box to send yourself a copy, type the correction in the text box (please be clear and as brief as possible) and submit it. The memorial manager has 30 days to address these kind of corrections.

If a correction is not done or an edit is declined, you can forward your copy to the Edit Team. The email address is listed in the "Help with Find A Grave" section.

Once you send the email, it will take between 2 and 3 weeks for the correction to be made (they get thousands of emails every day) and you will not receive a reply. You'll need to come up with some method of tracking those (everyone seems to have a different method that works for them).

For corrections to the cemetery listing, the most efficient method is to join their Community Forums (this is a separate log-in than on Find A Grave "main site") and post in the "Official: Cemetery Corrections" section. Be sure to read the first post and follow the directions to a T!

If you do these things, you CAN get corrections made on nearly every memorial or cemetery. Just a matter of following a process and following up.

Guest

Thanks for your comment. Contacting Find A Grave is a useless effort.

Since it was sold to Ancestry.com they could care less. I have sent polite emails to two people trying to correct errors that I have documentation for and those people are not interested and have never responded.

They are just interested the their vanity. Thanks again for your input.

Guest
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Contacting Find A Grave is not a useless effort. They make corrections for me all the time.

You just have to follow the correct procedure and it will be done. Submit the corrections through the memorial's edit tab not by email.

Depending on what type of correction (see above response to the OP), it can take 21 to 31 days. Then, and only then, if the correction is not made, you send an email to the correct address.

Guest
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I think Findagrave and ancestry.dotcom do an excellent job with family research and genealogy connections for families. Also they do a much better job with family researching on the most part.

FamilySearch however, has some really hateful know-it-alls who no nothing!

And make up junk, destroy lines and whatnot. Talk about sour power...--whifffer !!

Guest

You can always let the person know of their memorial mistakes and show them correct records. If they will not corporate then contact Find a Grave.

Let them know what you would like changed. Don't be pushed around by nerds!

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Merissa Vkv

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How did this great concept fall so low?

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Boy Am I native. I thought the people who posted the pictures and information on Find a Grave were volunteers. That they wanted accurate information and would more than welcome family members taking over the memorials so that accurate up-to-date information was posted, and only information which the family wants. I started requesting that “family” memorials were transferred to me. I don’t want money, I just want the memorials to be accurate and maintained by ancestors of the deceased. These are people who can tie the family members together, post stories, information, which the family wants. I understand that there might be more than one family member requesting management. However, that is between families – not non-family members. I have had memorial transfers to me by some very nice people. On the other hand it seems that those who are managing the 100,000 grave sites are the ones that refuse to transfer graves, refuse to change information that is incorrect. Yes Find a Grave has helped me with my 10 plus years researching my family. However at this point I am so angry with the “horders and vultures”, I am not going to try to correct incorrect information, or make the information on their sites accurate. It is just too frustrating trying to deal with the people who only want to make money and don’t care about the accuracy of their memorials! It just saddens me that the original opportunity to create something meaningful for genealogist, has fallen so low due to people who don’t care about the families they are supposed to be helping.
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Guest

No one ever twisted anyones arm to go out and find a graves in any old cemetery. At least have the decency and respect to hand over a memorial to their relatives if they ask for it.

They are not your relatives so let it go.

GEEEZZZZE you hoarders should use some logic.

and develop some manners apparently something you were not taught as children.

This is to anonymous person below........

Guest

I am going through the same thing right now as we speak. I have a bunch of my relatives that have been transferred to me and when I happily found a long lost relative, I asked the lady politely to please transfer him (and his family) to me so that I can link him with the rest of his family. She refused stating that she didn't feel I contributed enough to the website to have my relatives. I reported her and told her that was fine, that I would just start another one so that they stayed with family members who respect them.

I was told via email tonight that she will be watching MY relatives and me and if I duplicate on purpose, she will have me banned.

I am finding it hard to wrap my head around this.

Why? She has no ties to my family. None! Now she wants to stalk me and my dead relatives? ***

Guest
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Sounds like slithering grave hoarder "S" has surfaced from her hole again.

Guest
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DEFINITELY! SShe is off her medication for the time, so what else can you expect?

Guest

True true. I took some photos w iPhone not knowing the photo was there as it was being shown w photo the person emailed me to say her photo was much better then mine.

Guest
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Maybe it was better.... better is always better than better :)

Guest

I have been having the same problem. I only want to do my own family bloodline and have what I call "Headstone Clickers" contact me and want me to remove my family members off Find A Grave because they were on first.

There is more to a headstone than a name and dates. These are our relatives lying there, they have families and many have had children. They all have stories to tell and they can't speak for themselves. I want to put as many of my family members on Find A Grave because one day I will be gone and if I don't tell their stories then who will?

I believe family should trump strangers. People just interested in the contest of seeing how many names they can add to their lists. If a family member of mine wanted me to give them what I wrote about on of my family members that was closer to then them than to me I would immediately send my information over to them. I always believed that Find A Grave was a site so that we could help one another, by connecting the dots for each other as to how we are related.

I have found out that isn't true.

The "Headstone Clickers" only care about numbers, not the person in the ground. So much more can be learned if each and every person the Clickers took pictures of actually knew the person and was related to that person and could tell a story about that person, not just what they find written on the headstone.

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You can tell the stories! For those that are already memorialized on Find A Grave, submit the story by using the 6th option on the Edit tab.

The first key to "getting along" on Find A Grave is to read and follow the rules. You don't have to agree *with* the rules, just agree to follow them. The second key is to understand (and accept) there are things that the site leaves to each member. Such as photo use and optional transfers.

You might not like the answer you get but that's the way the site is. The third key is to understand (and accept) Find A Grave is a collaborative site. One person creates and manages a memorial. Another takes a photo of the marker and adds it.

A third adds a photo of the person.

A fourth writes and submits a biography. Instead of looking at "who" is managing the memorial, look "at" the memorial itself.

Guest
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It might be nice if we did not have to deal with mentally deficient people. Tiresome.

Guest
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No doubt the member feels the same about you.

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Anonymous

New: *** pop up question - annoying!

For the past couple of weeks I have had an annoying pop up message when I am ready to close/leave a web-page - every time, every one who matter who it is. It is like the annoying recycle bin question when you want to empty it. In this case: "Are you sure you want to leave" , etc. - and you have to check leave or you will never get off that page. What is with this; who started this and why? How to get rid of it? Are we all so suddenly *** that we cannot decide what we want to do? It does not matter which browser I use. Nothing matters but to answer that *** question before I can move on.
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Samad Gqz

That sounds like a browser issue.

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