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THIS IS NOT A COMPLAINT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Updated by user Jul 11, 2012

And to clarify it has never been about the numbers for me. The way I see it is there are 30 thousand possible connections with 27 thousand plus added bonus photos to those who searching.

I have been bitten, stung, hot, cold, hungry, lost, fallen, broken numerous cameras, spent untold amounts of money on gas, am on my third car, chased once at gunpoint in order to document that which I see as important. The next time you want to judge me or talk about me .. remember I may be photographing your family\'s final resting place.

Instead of being nasty, hateful, controlling and what not try being grateful. What a concept!

Original review posted by user Jul 11, 2012

I joined Find a Grave four years ago. It was a perfect outlet for my hobby of transcribing cemeteries and placing my family members on Find a Grave gave me a lot of joy. I started in Historic Oakwood Cemetery which holds all manner of Montgomerians.. rich, poor, black, white, known and unknown. Realizing it was too big for me to do alone I sought another cemetery smaller in scale. I chose Lincoln and was appalled at the conditions of this cemetery. My tenure on Find a Grave was humming along just fine until I began noticing a lot of duplicate entries by someone named Charlene. At first I tried to be helpful and point out these duplicates which she would make subtle changes to in order to make it appear different. A full out escalation of disgust came when I found she triplicated and plopped the Hill family in the three largest cemeteries. I knew where the Hill's where located and it really pissed me off to find them and then have to tell this *** toad where they were. I did not for months because she as Porter (she likes to hide behind multiple id's) had gotten really nasty about Elizabeth Sealey Pepperman whom I added and she refused to ask for so she duped it and refused to delete. When I sent it to edit she emailed me the nastiest email I had ever gotten accusing me of stealing her family member! Since all of these cemeteries where relatively close to me I frequented all of them adding some here and some there. I can't help that she joined after me. Then she and another contributor whom I know is her brother now backdated a memorial in order to keep it. She and her brother earned themselves a time out for that little stunt.

I have no use for the likes of Charlene Boyd, her daughter Helen, Anita B. and other crazy off the chain people who think the rules do not apply to them. And then when they are penalized or caught in a lie they turn to whining ( 2. To complain or protest in a childish fashion.) and manipulate others like Joyce Morgan E. to write nasty, hateful corrections, in public messages, find a grave forums and face book pages created solely to WHINE and CARRY on, spew hatred, vileness and distort the truth about perceived injustices at the hands of administrators and contributors. Tell me .. do you sit in church with that dirty mouth and nasty heart?

READ THE DAMNED FAQ's!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rules are plain as day. Duping for any reason is a no no . Ask for transfers of direct relatives. Consider and make all changes or corrections as they are presented to you. ESPECIALLY when irrefutable proof is given. I.E. photographic evidence. Copyright infringement is taken very seriously. Do not take photographs you DID NOT take and upload them as your own. The FAQ's cover EVERYTHING but the most amazing thing is Jim Tipton is very flexible and as the site has grown many things have changed to reflect that. Another amazing thing is in spite of the apparent nasty, hateful, vile childish emails and public messages and please let not forget the complaints from the BBB rme's.. he receives daily the website is still in operation.

STOP WEARING YOUR EMOTIONS ON YOUR SLEEVE!!!!!!!!!!

This group which wishes to see him put out of business and off the internet should remember that what goes around comes around. Your actions and inability to play by the rules resulted in your being kicked off the site. In essence it is HIS house and I don't know where you come from but you abide by my rules in my house. I sincerely hope that this website is around forever!

As for how I know so much about her? I grew up in the digital age. I am extremely computer savvy and my god... I am actually intelligent!! As much as I hate to break it to you I am just a lowly volunteer who happens to care very much about cemetery preservation, history and making sure those facts are straight. I don't dupe, plop, guess or build family trees at Find a Grave. I walk, find a grave and upload that to the website. Period. As for me I have no intention of doing anything that puts my account or my hard work in jeopardy.

If you feel the need to join a bunch of other babies to cry about how you were wronged at *** or create multiple id's in order to continue you have a serious issue that either needs medication or a straight jacket.

Denise

PS. I sat right next to you at the Archives and History Building last year :D

Location: Washington, District Of Columbia

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Guest

The best way to go somewhere is to ask someone who has been there before, get a Mentor!!. Someone has done what you are trying to do

Guest

mormons aka ***

Guest

I think they are all Mormons.

Guest

Yes many honest good people have issues with f.a.g. members and f.a.g.

adminstrators and jim tipton you all are a bunch of grave vampires & buzzards.

f.a.g. profits from the deaths of our loved ones they steal obituary photos they steal obituaries that family paid for and they photograph gravestones that the family paid and then put them on f.a.g so jim tipton can profit from their deaths!

Guest

:upset :cry :upset :x

Somebody has issues....

Bob

Guest

The truth about Find A Grave is they profit from the deaths of our loved ones have strangers photograph gravestones that the family paid for and post those photos on the F.A.G. website without permission from the family and for profit for Jim Tipton to make hundreds of thousands of dollars every year from "volunteers".

Shame on F.A.G. & Jim Tipton!

Guest
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Don't bury your family in a public space where anyone can visit then. Its just like the fact I can take your picture if you are walking down a public street and there is nothing you can do about it.

Jessie Jtq

You people are SCARY human beings ! I am never going back to that website again!!

why would you say this?? As for how I know so much about her? I grew up in the digital age. You freaking stalked her family is what you did??

WHY???? I sat right next to you at the Archives and History Building last year :D MY GOD!!!

what is the matter with you Lonewalker? my guess is the more I go through these posts I will find other people from this website cheering your predatory behavior on....

Guest

the so called f.a.g. faq's are load of ***..that has been well established on this website as well as many others.

they only apply to members that do not have friends that are f.a.g. adminstrators. lonewalker you are clearly someone that abuses others and as well as exploits our loved ones deaths. stay away from our family cemetery you are trespassing!

poor lonewalker its true you are pathetic!

as for the so called duped faq it is bogus since I can site several dupes that were merged and the duper maintains the memorial so get your facts right, you spewing outright lies!

ps...anyone else bored with lonewalker's complaint...stopped reading it after the first couple of lines...blah, blah blah

Guest

Author of post That is much better before the lie about me looking up your husband in your diary of a findagrave stalking bully blog was obvious due to your inconsistancies. It is much better now that you lied about me posting under St.Paul Minnesota.

PS The Cyber stalking bully blog makes find a grave look BAD. I will not meet your demands to have it removed. People have quit the website because of your campaigns. Thank you for the help.

You can only control you hun. You cannot control me.

Also Just a thought your claim i sought you out also looks like a lie because this dated post of you attacking me with no previous history prior to you calling me crazy and all those other names needs to be fixed. Pissed consumer removed the post you made about me being some kind of predator they felt it was harassment...

Guest

what a pathetic a joke you are! you are one of those people that jump fences to trample on our loved ones final resting place a place you do not belong!

you should be concerned with your own rather than others loved ones. you buzzards standing on our loved ones graves so you can rack up numbers that's all it is to you numbers, these are people we knew and loved.

I am sick you f.a.g. people lurking over our loved ones grave for the sake of a picture you all are nothing more than dirty buzzards.

Guest
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Don't bury your family in a public space where anyone can visit then. Its just like the fact I can take your picture if you are walking down a public street and there is nothing you can do about it.

Guest

Written by Stalking Victim of Findagrave on September 28, 2012 From Minneapolis, Minnesota, US

I did not know how upset people were getting about me using different names on this website. I assumed because the site tracks the town and state people would be able to identify my posts.

In July something was wacky with the site.All my posts are listed under Madison Wisconsin from July 1, 2012 to July 27,2012 On July 28 it changes to Minneapolis, Minnesota. I will now stick to using one name to help you all out but if I forget remember all of July Madison WS and Minneapolis Minnesota to date.

SO I WONDER WHO WROTE THIS????? ALL OF MY POSTS ARE UNDER MADISON WISCONSIN FOR THE ENTIRE MONTH OF JULY.. PLEASE ADD THIS TO YOUR BLOG HUN......23. Written by Natalia on July 11, 2012 From ST.PAUL, Minnesota, US

This sounds a lot like the rant posted by Denise Hardin today...aka Lonewalker. Wonder if she talks to Ken that way.

IF YOU WOULD LIKE I WILL PULL UP THE POST WHERE YOU TELL ME YOUR HUSBANDS NAME ON THIS SITE... IT WAS IN RESPONSE TO YOU DEFENDING YOUR ACTIONS OF STALKING MY 3 KIDS AND DECEASED 4 YEAR OLD CHILD WHICH I DISCOVERED IN YOUR BULLY BLOG. i THEN RESPONDED HERE SHOCKED YOU STALKED ALL FOUR OF MY KIDS LIVING AND DECEASED!!!! PLEASE ADD THIS TO YOUR DOCUMENTATION AND PUBLIC BLOG.... AUTHOR OF POST. We would not want people to think you have to make stuff up to make me look bad and call me names. Dont worry I got your back..

Guest

I did not know how upset people were getting about me using different names on this website. I assumed because the site tracks the town and state people would be able to identify my posts.

In July something was wacky with the site.All my posts are listed under Madison Wisconsin from July 1, 2012 to July 27,2012 On July 28 it changes to Minneapolis, Minnesota. I will now stick to using one name to help you all out but if I forget remember all of July Madison WS and Minneapolis Minnesota to date.

Guest

Written by Read the FAQs on August 25, 2012 From Wichita, Kansas, US

For those who don't know the whole story: AKB71, Blue Genes and OMG!!! are all the same person.

Now, to clarify the "Julie" situation. There is, indeed, an admin named Julie. She is not the same Julie as is a prolific poster in the Forums.

AKB71/Blue Genes/OMG!!! believes the person who requested the photo was the admin Julie's mother but that is solely a SUPPOSITION on her part. AKB71/Blue Genes/OMG!!! (and a ton of other names here on Pissed Consumer) has a bad habit of jumping to conclusions without proof and will not provide proof when called on it. Take half of what she claims and throw it in the trash. Take the other half with a healthy dose of salt (not just a pinch).

Guest

Admins absolutely think it is funny as heck to get you to spend your money and free time on helping others out. Driving to a cemetery out of town and spending an hour or so looking for the stone to take a picture for a complete stranger out of the kindness of your heart.

If you are doing that you should know JULIE thinks your a joke!!!

Jim Tipton condones his staffs behavior when they do humiliate you for going out to get those pictures. 60 people were passed over when her humiliation photo requests were placed and filled before any of the others who lost photos due to her deleting the total amount of EDITED pictures I took of 16,000 pictures 5 years wasted and lesson learned JIM TIPTON THINKS WASTING VOLUNTEERS TIME and MONEY IS FUNNY!!!

Guest
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If you believe this and you participate you are the joke.

Guest

Saying things like "Banished Members Are Sniveling Children" is how a bully talks. In your case it makes you a find a grave bully. Those like you use the so called rules as an excuse to be bullies. Their intent is to do the opposite of being helpful and usually go after anyone who doesn't think like them.

Frequently Asked Questions on any website is not something people check unless, wait for it, they have a question (imagine that). It is not something they memorize and act on according to what it says absolutely as if it were the Bible. If they were meant to be rules and followed absolutely then they should be listed as rules with the expressed notation that they shall be followed or you will be banished and any work you have done on the website will be taken away from you.

Find-A-Grave can be a very helpful website for remembering the deceased and genealogy (even if some people don't like it being used for the latter). However, it has two major flaws.

The first is getting changes made which can be an act of Congress. Because of the rules the first person to post a memorial for a particular deceased person has a virtual monopoly on all the info that can be posted about that person in all of find a grave as long as they remain active and include the minimal info in the memorial. In other words they can keep all other data on that person from ever being posted anywhere in find a grave. Even going to the administrators to have changes made can be lengthy drawn out process requiring months and several tries.

The second thing wrong with find a grave is that the way it is set up and administered encourages bullies like you to harass people no matter how much they contribute or try to help others. The find a grave forum is like a cult with Jim Tipton as their leader and find a grave is his little fiefdom. The rules and the way the website is administered need to be changed. There is something very wrong with a website they punishes people trying to be helpful and rewards the bullies.

By the way those who obsess about rules should remember the many famous people in history who defied the rules. That is how things change by defying rules and demanding change. I know of no better example of what I mean than one particular person who annoyed so many people they just had to literally crucify him.

Jessie Jtq
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So far there are a few people here willing to point out the member of findagrave author of this post, is disturbed ! I am guessing that as I continue to read posts I will find other members of find a grave cheering a vile person on to continue tormenting people.

Guest

WHY ARE YOU LOOKING UP INFORMATION ON MY CHILDREN OVER FG ISSUES. I have reported all of this to Jim Tipton who also has children and well lets just see how he feels about cyber stalking and bullying. PEOPLE BEWARE OF THIS WEB SITE I HAD NO CLUE WHAT KIND OF PEOPLE ARE HERE THEY ARE LOOKING UP INFO ON MY KIDS PERSONAL PUBLIC BASHING ALL BECAUSE OF ISSUES WITH FIND A GRAVE AND JIM TIPTONS WEBSITE

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