I have been a member of findagrave for over a year. I never put up any photos of other families' headstones, only those related to me. I volunteered to take photos for others when I could. When I wanted to add a memorial for my great uncle, a WWII vet, I found that someone unrelated already did. This was a contributor only caring about numbers. There are many of them, we all know it. God forbid you bring it up in the forum or those nutjobs who sit on the computer all day staring at graves will cyberstalk you and turn you into a devil.
I requested from this numbers contributor the transfer of my great uncles' memorial. I know it is "out of the guidlines" but he never married and had no children. Why should a total stranger be in charge of his memorial? I patiently waited beyond the 30 days but never even got a reponse from the high number contributor. The admns wouldn't help me because its out of guidelines. I have so much info I wanted to add. They told me to use the "SAC" link. No, that is not good enough! I want to be the one in charge of the memorial so I can add the info myself. What is 1 memorial for a total stranger to someone who has over 10,000 contributions?
They say findagrave is not a genealogy site. Oh yeah, then how come it's constantly mentioned in and advertised in genealogy magazines? These numbers contributors look up obituaries and add them before the deceased is even in the ground. I took down all my memorials and will find another site to put them on. A friend of the family asked me after their loved one died to set up the memorial for them. Guess what? I couldn't. That same high number contribtuor put it up without even getting a photo of the stone (since there isn't even one yet). My friend is outraged and is warning everyone about this site. This site is no longer what it was intended for and no one seems to care about the loved ones left behind. They say the dead have no privacy, but guess what? Their family members do. Totally disgusting.
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Location: Newark, New Jersey
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