Find A Grave

Find A Grave owner Jim Tipton is a thief he creates a website for members to add burial information thus creating so called "memorials" he uses these memorials for ad space and charges members to sponsor these memorials. He makes hundreds of thousands of dollars a year from the deaths of others loved ones and provides no service to the survivors.

He and his administration have a set of so called "faq's" that only apply to a few. Find A Grave members constantly steals obituaries, steals photos and information from newspapers, websites and funeral homes. Information provided by the family to the various media with permission for the information to be used only in those media forms NOT Find A Grave.

Find A Grave is notorious for violating copyrights and allowing its members to violate copyrights. Members are out thousands of dollars from their free work so that Jim Tipton can make a profit.

I manage my parents and grandparents memorials. Somehow someone was allowed to add my mother's sibling without my edit approval.

Also, someone was allowed to change and delete a photo on my father's without edit approval. The reason I managed them is for stuff like this not to happen. If a family member is the manager no one should be able to make the changes unless it's the managed relative. Find A Grave should not be allowed to override the approval.

This is sensitive and my dad was remarried and I suspect it was his widow messing around. I wanted my parents connected since my mother passed 28 years before my father. They were married 20 years. The widow made everything about her when my father passed including where he was buried and not next to my mom like planned.

I wanted my kids to see some history between the grandparents and great grandparents. Managed accounts should have an option for privacy and members should NOT be allowed to add or change anything.

I left Find A Grave for various reasons, One is that there is a contributor whos on the site hours before sun up and hours past sun down creating memorials and making sure no one gets them. I have been a photographer since 2015 and I have put in so much effort into them, and this person has done nothing but belittle me and tried his damnest to get me off the site for the stupidest reasons.

this person made complaints of duplicates, etc. to which by the way this person has been doing way more then me. He has made verbal and mental abuse to other contributors and got away with it. This contributor has had complaints against to admins and nothing has been done, he continues to get away with it and he sits on his hind end and laughs about it.

Admins favors this contributor for whatever reason, no matter what proof is sent to them, they favor this god awful contributor and If I ever rejoin, I will give this person a piece of my mind and I do not care what the admins have to say about it. I specifically asked admins to send my memorials to the contributors I know who will care for them in the event of my retirement of the site. When I did retire, they did not honor my request and this jokester of a contributor managed about 95% of what I had. and his numbers are now over 200,000 memorials and the photos that he does have were copyright from not only mine and does NOT credit me for my work, this person has done it to others too.

this person creates memorials for the deceased the SECOND the obituary is posted. How Sickning. I got booted off Find A Grave because of this person and he has his messages turned off (I wonder why).

So, I don't even bother with Find A Grave anymore. Too much stress and disappointment, not to mention the continuous abuse.

The "Guidelines" and "Community Standards" were written by Find a Grave (FAG) administration, not by its members. They are extremely biased toward FAG information-gathering and are not friendly toward family members establishing a respectful, accurate, considerate and non-commercial memorial to their departed loved ones.

There will always be those who are totally ignorant of their heritage and will give FAG kudos for helping them find a loved one's final resting place.

But the majority of people I see posting negatively about FAG say that they are totally unaware of the "whack-os" they harbor within their family. I think I'm addicted to graving" as one member put it -- and FAG does nothing about them as long as they have long membership years and thousands of memorial creations.

These addicted members bully other members, especially family members of the deceased, by every means possible as long as their name and their contributions (correct or incorrect) are undisturbed by family members. It's sort of, "I know more about your family member than you do" mentality, which to my way of thinking is totally bizarre and is an extreme form of narcissistic behavior.

But YOU, if you violate or attempt to step around ONE of their Guidelines or Community Standards, they will hound to death, even threatening expulsion from FAG (which threats violate their own Guidelines against threatening another member -- go figure!).

My bottom line advice is don't post ANYTHING on this site (EVERYTHING becomes de facto FAG's property). They seem especially intent on gathering PHOTOS of your departed loved ones so dont post any photos.

Dont waste your time jumping through all their hoops to correct wrong information of a family member.

It is just not worth the hassle and lack of common sense you will encounter with FAG staff.

Again, post NOTHING on this site because you will lose all control of it. Do your own family research, keep it closed off from the prying of others, and be aware of the ownership (covert) of all the sites owned or managed by this cult-driven organization headquarted in UTAH.

20 year now ex member of Find A Grave here. Why ex you ask after 20 long years?

My account got hacked by a man who had hacked my Gmail and then he proceeded to *** everything he found in my Gmail.
It goes beyond the hacking though. The jerk found my Find A Grave friend list and sent terrible, humiliating messages to them, except they didn't know I was hacked and must have thought I turned into a complete psycho. Very distressing.
I contacted customer service to tell them what happened and this horribly mean customer service agent Laura basically said I had violated Find A Grave rules, that several notices were sent and I was warned to stop harassing people. Except it wasn't me harassing anyone, it was the *** hacker who knows me in real life and stalks me in real life roo, not just cyber attacks.
I asked her to check IP addresses, asked if Find A Grave does any type of account verification so I could prove it wad not me who harassed scores of people.

She did not respond to that, so clearly they do not have account verification in place. I only write to this Laura girl at Find A Grave twice and she told me to never write to them again and to not bother asking for any site edits because I would not be granted them.
I have cried my eyes out over this situation. 20 years of hard work, hundreds of memorials no longer in my control, I can no longer leave flowers. This hateful girl Laura told me my account was permanently suspended and that I should have heeded the warnings.

I never got any warnings or knew what was happening because the hacker had both my Find A Grave account and my Gmail. I even offered to send Laura a security report from the Hilton Garden Inn in which this stalker followed me there and knocked on my door to come after me.

I wanted to prove to her that I was actively being stalker and the *** cyberstalks me as well. No answer to that either.
My user name of 20 years there was Eternity Persephone.

The "Guidelines" and "Community Standards" were written by Find a Grave (FAG) administration, not by its members. They are extremely biased toward FAG information-gathering and are not friendly toward family members establishing a respectful, accurate, considerate and non-commercial memorial to their departed loved ones.

There will always be those who are totally ignorant of their heritage and will give FAG kudos for helping them find a loved one's final resting place.

But the majority of people I see posting negatively about FAG say that they are totally unaware of the "whack-os" they harbor within their family. "I think I'm addicted to graving" as one member put it -- and FAG does nothing about them as long as they have long membership years and thousands of memorial creations.

These addicted members bully other members, especially family members of the deceased, by every means possible as long as their name and their contributions (correct or incorrect) are undisturbed by family members. It's sort of, "I know more about your family member than you do" mentality, which to my way of thinking is totally bizarre and is an extreme form of narcissistic behavior.

But YOU, if you violate or attempt to step around ONE of their Guidelines or Community Standards, they will hound to death, even threatening expulsion from FAG (which threats violate their own Guidelines against threatening another member -- go figure!).

My bottom line advice is don't post ANYTHING on this site (EVERYTHING becomes de facto FAG's property). They seem especially intent on gathering PHOTOS of your departed loved ones so dont post any photos.

Dont waste your time jumping through all their hoops to correct wrong information of a family member.

It is just not worth the hassle and lack of common sense you will encounter with FAG staff.

Again, post NOTHING on this site because you will lose all control of it. Do your own family research, keep it closed off from the prying of others, and be aware of the ownership (covert) of all the sites owned or managed by this cult-driven organization headquarted in UTAH.

There should be a way to actually talk to someone about a problem, because I feel they cant understand whats going on otherwise. Twice I have made suggestions, and it comes back that nothing was changed when in all actuality I had added names and need one deleted.

Mine is an unusual situation. I have an aunt, Nellie May Counts #7851**** who married William Templeton Chapman. There is another Nellie May (Johnson) who married William Thomas Chapman. Notice both gentlemens initials are WTC and ladies are both Nellie May.

Well Nelly May Johnson #5819**** Chapman has been added as a sibling to my Nellie May Counts Chapman (b 6 Nov 1915) - d 26 Jan 1983), which needs 2B deleted. And to make matters worse, both Nellie Mays have been added as children to my grandparents, George William #6997**** and Eliza Jane Martin Counts #6997**** memorials.

So U C there IS a problem that needs 2 B taken care of.

Enclosed are the Find-A-Grave ID# for the Nellys and my grandparents.

I hope you can decipher all this correctly. Please notify me if you have a problem to avoid further issues.